Hi Reader!

You know that moment when your child hits a wall and completely shuts down?

Maybe it's during math. Maybe it's when they make a mistake. Maybe it's when something doesn't go their way.

And no matter what you say or do, they stay stuck in that place of "I can't" or "I'm not good enough."

I've been there. Both of my kids have struggled with this in different ways. And I used to think I just needed to push them through it or give them a pep talk.

But here's what I learned: resilience isn't something we can force. It's something we build—one small moment at a time.

Here's what makes the difference:

When kids shut down, their brain literally can't learn. They're in what Dan Marone (the therapist I work with) calls a "no brain" state—stuck in fear and protection mode.

Before we can teach resilience, we have to help them feel safe again. That means pausing, connecting, and meeting them where they are emotionally. Once they feel safe and loved, their learning brain comes back online.

Then we teach them the skills:

We help them see that intelligence isn't fixed—it grows. Every time they try something hard, their brain builds new connections. Mistakes aren't failures. They're how we learn.

We teach them how to regulate their bodies through simple breathing techniques and mindfulness practices. When they can calm their nervous system, they can face challenges without shutting down.

And we help them build a gratitude practice—not just saying "thank you," but actually rewiring their brain to notice what's working, even in hard moments. Research shows gratitude increases dopamine and serotonin (the same chemicals antidepressants try to boost) and reduces cortisol, the stress hormone.

This isn't theory. This is what worked for us.

I created a 4-part course series called Building Resilience and a Growth Mindset in Your Child because these strategies changed everything in our home.

Inside, you'll get:

• Practical ways to help your child move from shutdown to engagement
• Simple techniques to rewire the "I can't" mindset
• Tools to reduce overwhelm and build emotional regulation
• Strategies to cultivate gratitude that actually sticks

BONUS: Words That Work Guide

You'll also get our guide that shows you exactly what to say in challenging moments.

Ever notice how "It's not that hard" or "Just try harder" seems to make things worse? This guide gives you the language that actually helps—phrases that keep your child's learning brain engaged instead of triggering their stress response.

It covers what to say when they're stuck, when they make mistakes, when they express doubt, when planning next steps, and when they show progress. Small language shifts create big changes in how your child responds to challenges.

And right now, you can save $15 with code GROW15—but only for the next 48 hours.

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Your child doesn't need to be "fixed." They need skills. And you can give them those skills.

Your friend,

P.S. If your child struggles with learning challenges, ADHD, or high anxiety, these strategies are especially powerful. They're designed to meet kids where they are and help them grow from there.

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